To clarify, I found it about as intrusive as you did ("Wait, let me re-read that scene"). After the realization that the predominance of females was a linguistic, not evolutionary, phenomenon, my response was more, "Yeah, yeah, I get it; I'm so sorry I'm a white male hegemonist." Then I got over that (I think I'm generally good at getting over things).

I definitely look forward to Ancillary Sword.